Eulogy for Angela Maria Volan
Given by Debbie Brzoska
at the Wake, Wednesday, June 28, 2006

For the last 20 years I've had the honor of calling Angela my best friend. And for just as long, Dr. and Mrs. Volan have referred to me as their "adopted daughter." I'm as grateful for my friendship with Angela as I am for my place in the Volans' hearts.

Angela and I met in high school and formed a bond. We saw one another through the normal teenage trials and tribulations, and bore witness to one another's highs and lows. I watched her become a seasoned world traveler and a scholar. She watched me become a wife and a mother. We envied one another's lives a little, but knew we were exactly where we needed to be. Angela lived the life she wanted, in spite of her illness, and she lived it to the fullest. I was very proud of her independence and self-sufficiency.

Our lives are not a series of monumental turning points and great revelations. Instead, our lives are a series of everyday moments—kisses when you come and go, an inside joke, a shared look that tells you the other person knows exactly what you're thinking. These quiet moments are then punctuated by bigger occasions—graduations, weddings, birth, death. I want to remember Angela for those everyday moments—for boosting my self-confidence by telling me I was smart and pretty, for telling me I'm a great mom, for loving my children, and for calling out of the blue to tell me she's thinking of me. I want to remember the way she made me feel—valuable, competent, and empowered. I know she made many people feel that way, and we are better friends and better people for having known her.

Special Note: Debbie's father, Casey Brzoska, 84, died within days of Angela, on Thursday, July 6, 2006. Pruzin Funeral Home has an obituary for him here, with an attached guestbook. The Post-Tribune has an obituary for him here, with an attached guestbook.

The entire Volan family wishes to express its heartfelt condolences to Debbie and her family for their loss of her father.